WARNING: Are You Chasing People Away

WARNING:  The Colours You Wear May Be Chasing People Away

Most people let the weather decide their attitude for the day.

As I write this newsletter the weather is changeable. It is grey with intermittent rain, cool and quiet. Sometimes the sun peeks through and everything looks brighter. Today you can end up feeling depressed, eat more and want to go back to bed or alternate between sunny and miserable all day. Either way you feel totally exhausted at the end of the day.

It is easy to automatically react to the situations and colours around us. BUT smart women don’t do that! They choose their colours and feelings for the day. That choice may not always be upbeat and positive but it is a considered choice.

Most women dress unconsciously. Some women have a wardrobe full of one colour, usually safe black, although I know a woman who only wears red. Other women may have lots of colours but wear only 20% of them. Finally some women just grab and wear ‘this will do’ clothes.

A recent survey stated that ‘women spend longer getting dressed to go out with other women than they do to go out with their partners’. I believe that Baby Boomer women take more time to dress for meeting new people than meeting old friends or going out with their partners. Quick dressing can result from a ‘stuck in a habit’ dressing.

Truth is not what someone else tells you. It is when you agree with what someone else tells you. So here are some of my insights on how you are chasing people away by the colours you are wearing. Choose your truth.

Colour is A Language
I'Colour Therapy' by Jonathon Dee & Lesley Taylor have read and believe that we have seven brains. Only one of them deals with words. Sometimes it is interpreting visual and emotional signals (or languages) and translating them into words. Other times we get heart and intuitive messages in a language that we often ignore or supress. Colour speaks those languages. What we wear and what others wear consciously or unconsciously connect to these visual, emotional, heart and intuitive languages. We have learnt over time to interpret colour – eg feeling blue, seeing red or being sunny yellow.

Different cultures also have attached different positive and negative associations and feeling to colours. Be aware of this when you travel or have personal or business dealings with other cultures. You may turn them unconsciously to you or against you.

Then there are the Five Element Colours of Feng Shui and the Rainbow Chakra Colours. Add Colour Therapy, Angel Feather Colours and the rest and you can be totally confused.

Unconscious Dressing
Like my introductory weather analogy, too many of us dress and live on auto-pilot. Do you change your dressing to blend with the weather? Do you go mono-colour because it’s safe? Do you unconsciously dress to please others or not annoy or out-shine them?

Who Wears The Pants - Marg Sims 2013(c)Your unconscious colour choices can actually repel the people you want to attract as they cannot emotionally connect with the real you. Your colour choices can also bring lots of people who are draining your life energy with their challenging emotional problems.

Lastly you can also unconsciously do it to others by choosing, buying and imposing your personality traits on them. Like this cartoon, we claim we do it in the name of Love.


Conscious Dressing
Life today is a real smorgasbord and you are swamped with choices. My advice is –

Your Personal Colour Solutions Palette(1) Choose one system of Colour Interpretation and stick with it. There are many paths that lead to the same result.

(2) If you have a TAIC Personal Colour Solutions Palette, you have this advice at your fingertips. Read the Colour Effects descriptions on the back of your favourite colour chips to see the type of people you are attracting. Look at the other colours in the Palette and see what you are missing that you can add to your life.

(3) Learn to stand up for yourself and wear colours that fully express who you are. Give your loved ones and others the chance to appreciate you not the pretend you.

(4) Then leave others adults alone. Make them buy their own clothes. It saves you time and teaches you that we are all different and that’s OK.

Last Words
It’s grey and raining again but I don’t care. I chose this morning to wear Red. I needed to feel active and get this newsletter written. What colour are you wearing today and why?

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Cream – A Special Treat for Special Occasions

Cream is white with a touch of yellow to make it softer and warmer than the cool white that clothing manufacturers love. It is not the easiest colour to find in the shops.

Cream contains the purity of white combined with the optimism of yellow. Those who love cream love new ideas and unusual experiences. On the negative side, wearing too much cream can lower your self-esteem.

When worn as a contrast or as a highlight on another colour, cream projects a polished and confident impression. When worn as a single clothing colour, it can come across as quite passive.

Cream is a lovely contrast to warm reds, browns, olive and warm purples and looks great on those with a spring or autumn colouring. Cream pearls always added a touch of elegance to any outfit.

As one of the skin colours, when you wear cream, check to make sure you do not look naked from a distance. Cream is a great neutral shoe colour as its skin tone lengthens your legs. Naked on your legs is fine.

(Article sent to subscribers of ‘The Fashion Translator eZine’ on 2 June 2011. Click here to sign up for The Fashion Translator eZine.)

Decorating Your Nest

Have you ever had arguments with those who share your home or unit when it is time to decorate or re-decorate?

Look at yourself or the other person closely and you will find that we all gravitate towards colours and materials that fit with our individual colour personality and profile (except for teenagers who often seem to go through an ‘everything black’ phase).

Those with warm colouring will usually want warm colours, natural surfaces like timber and patterns that suit their fashion personality. Those will cool colouring will usually want cool colours, sleek surfaces like stainless steel and patterns that suit their fashion personality (Yes, men do have a fashion personality too).

Cater for both and you will have a happier home life. Or if you live alone, surround yourself with colours that please and suit you and your home will be a place of rest and revitalisation.

If you need help finding those best colours, textures and patterns for your home, call me.



The Colours of Xmas Food

As Christmas approaches, let’s look at the colours of Christmas food. Red is the colour of energy and green is the colour of balance and calmness. They are complimentary colours ie opposites on the colour wheel. Too much red food and drink on the table (and that includes seafood) and you’ll have hyperactive guests.

White foods like milk and yoghurt contain green energy. So add some green and white foods to calm everyone down. Add some purple foods for contentment. Yellow foods create happiness and orange foods aid the digestion. Blueberries, black cherries or olives help everyone sleep a little calmer after the Christmas feast.

In short, add as many coloured foods as you can to the Christmas table to create the balance that everyone needs at this time of year.

(Article sent to subscribers of ‘The Fashion Translator eZine’ on 16 December 2010. Click here to sign up for The Fashion Translator eZine.)

Magenta – a Practical Colour for Spiritual People

psychology of the Colour MagentaMagenta is an outgoing colour. When you are feeling ‘down in the dumps’, wear magenta to help your spirits soar again. Magenta is a combination of red and purple with a touch of black. It is the red side that gets you into action. Magenta is great for those working in alternative health fields who love to find creative solutions for life’s problems.

On the negative side, magenta can make Introverts too relaxed and stuck in their ‘down in the dumps’ state.

Magenta can be warmed up or cooled down. It is wonderful combined with basics like black or grey. If you want to be a little more adventurous, combine magenta with olive green, aqua blue or yellow depending on whether you want to keep it elegant or make it dramatic.

(Article sent to subscribers of ‘The Fashion Translator eZine’ on 5 May 2011. Click here to sign up for The Fashion Translator eZine.)

Maroon – Courage against the Odds

Maroon is a shade of red. Shades are colours with black added to them. The addition of black to red subdues the colour and the feeling of fast action that red implies.

Maroon is then a colour for those who feel that the odds are stacked against them and life is an uphill battle. Because of this, their actions are slower, more thought out and very courageous – just the colour for Queensland in its annual ‘State of Origin’ rugby league battle.

It is not all dogged perseverance because Maroon has a fun-loving side. Maroon can be worn with black or grey but be careful. Those combinations are low-contrast and a bit dull. Bring out the fun-loving side by brightening it up with a touch of apple green to get a better light and dark contrast.

(Article sent to subscribers of ‘The Fashion Translator eZine’ on 19 May 2011. Click here to sign up for The Fashion Translator eZine.)

Lemon – Sweet or Sour

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Psychology of the Colour Lemon

Lemon is a mixture of yellow and white. It can be as bright or soft as you wish.

In its brighter shades it is associated with a vibrant, happy personality glowing with positive energy and very adaptable (the sweet side). On its paler, duller side it leans towards the qualities of the loner – self-reliant and often very sensitive to criticism (the sour side).

Lemon enhances blonde hair and contrasts beautifully with blue eyes. Find a shade of lemon you like as most Australian women are not keen on yellow. In the right shade of lemon you will be noticed and remembered, even if you only include the colour in a scarf.

Lemon goes well with pink, turquoise or lime green. Keep all the colours in the same depth for the best effect ie all soft, all medium or all bright shades.

(Article sent to subscribers of ‘The Fashion Translator eZine’ on 7 April 2011. Click here to sign up for The Fashion Translator eZine.)